family were shocked when Raji announced her decision to divorce Rahul. Their
3.5 years of marriage was coming to an end. The World was not able to understand,
what actually went wrong between them. People gossiped on the basis of their
own assumptions. Rahul fueled to the gossip by posing to be helpless and
denying his consent for the divorce. Raji chose to keep quiet.
broke down and confessed that she was really emotionally troubled due to the
negativities spread in and around her due to gossips. But what was Raji’s
story? Are you interested to know?
hope, of making it successful. Raji accepted the fact that Rahul was a
different person, rather diametrically opposite to her. Raji being an
entrepreneur had a hectic work life, but this never became an obstacle in her
fulfilling her domestic responsibilities.
attitude towards life. Forget about sharing the load, he did not even bother to
sit and share some time with Raji. Raji told me, that how Rahul used to keep to
himself completely. On reaching home after work, he would never even try to
pick a glass of water for himself, rather would expect Raji to do that. Raji
might be suffering from fever or anything, he would not even try to ask her how
she was, forget about taking care of Raji. There were two doors in Raji’s
house, in case, Rahul reached early, Rahul would enter the house from the back
door, but would never keep the front door unlocked for Raji to come. This was
there even when Raji travelled out of station for her work. And on her return,
Raji had to keep the baggage aside, unlock the door first and then enter the house. Raji said, she felt
so very unwelcomed and unwanted in her own house. Raji still remembers, how,
once when she secretly paid Rahul’s credit card bills so as to surprise him,
but ended up getting lot of abuses in return. The list like this goes endless.
sharing the load at home, but she kept on asking herself, couldn’t Rahul
atleast sit with her to spend some quality time with her.
parting ways with Rahul. She was questioned about her decision, but she was
very clear. Her heart and mind said the same thing. For the world, Raji’s
decision was absolutely wrong. But Raji told me one simple thing: “The world
wants to know, how I felt abused by Rahul; how to let the world know that
emotional abuses don’t leave any physical scar but it leaves a deep scar on
heart”. Yes, emotional abuses are equally painful, rather more painful than
physical abuses. Raji decided to part ways with Rahul since he neither bothered
to share the load at household things nor bothered to share his life with Raji.
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Rahul also would be having his own version of story. But one fact is without
denial that situations would have been definitely different, if Rahul could have
taken efforts to atleast be part of Raji’s life. Gone are the days, when a man
used to be the bread-winner of the family, and a woman used to be just a
housewife and take care of the house. Today, females are equally contributing
towards corporate boardroom as well as homes. And so only, it is very important
for the husband and wife to share the load (#ShareTheLoad), household chores,
finance etc. Life would definitely be very beautiful with being part of one
another’s life in every sense- be it physically, emotionally, financially…
Afterall, families’ bond grow only stronger and stronger with the sharing.
other, but it is very important that how much quality time a couple gives to
one another. I really resonate with Ariel and believe that
equality within the household leads to better quality time with each other and
results in success for the household. Indeed, marriage is all about partnership
and sharing the load would make this partnership stay intact for the lifetime.